How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Free yourself and stop giving a s*** about what others think about you.

Let’s start this off with some brutal honesty. When I show up on social media, I put my best foot forward. I have a brilliant social media manager who helps me curate the content for my feed and helps me plan it out so that what I share is deliberate and valuable. I share the best photos of myself and content from when my brain is firing on all cylinders and coming up with some of it’s best work (if I do say so myself).

I share about struggles, but I don’t share about many things that I’m going through on a deeply personal or emotional level when they occur.

It’s not that I’m trying to be dishonest or inauthentic, I just don’t believe in sharing everything on social media with anyone and everyone.

As an entrepreneur, I appreciate social media as a brilliant and effective marketing tool, and I realize it can also become a comparison trap for many.

Instagram is full of:

  • Curated content

  • Only the comments they WANT you to see

  • Filters

  • Sound effects (cue the dreamy music over your last video)

And more special effects and tricks that result in a not-so-entirely-accurate depiction of what’s really going on behind the scenes.

Social media curates and creates stories in our minds about how someone’s life is going. And typically, it’s not reality. We don’t see their struggles, we don’t really know what they’re going through.

You might look at someone who’s attractive, in their 40’s, has two kids, the perfect spouse, and seems to have it all together and live a fabulous life. But you have no idea what goes on behind closed doors or in their hearts and minds.

You see all the fabulous parts of other’s lives, but remember that you don’t have all the facts.

Using myself as an example, here are things I won’t share about on social media, that are a part of my reality:

  • My deep relationship with my two daughters, and what they’re going through and have been through. I protect their information and share only what they’re comfortable with; this is their life, afterall.